Around the time of Abraham, or a generation or two before, Ur was the capital. The kings there had a ritual that mattered a lot to them: the sacred marriage of Inanna and Dumuzi.
We know about it from clay tablets archaeologists dug up, mostly from the scribal schools at Nippur, with some copies also found at Ur and other cities. The poems were written and copied during the Third Dynasty of Ur and the years right after — right around Abraham’s traditional lifetime.
Inanna is called the “Lady of Heaven.” She’s tied to the sky and to Venus. Dumuzi is a shepherd god, linked to flocks and the fertility of the land. In the poems she’s also pursued by Enkimdu, the farmer god of canals and fields. At first she likes the farmer better — grain, flax, steady harvests — but in the end she chooses the shepherd. She bathes, puts on oil and her royal clothes and jewelry, opens the door, and lets him in. That choice was understood as the moment heaven and earth came together, meant to keep the land fertile and confirm the king.
The kings of Ur actually performed this. The king took the role of Dumuzi; a high priestess took the role of Inanna. For the ritual they were treated as the gods themselves. It gave the king his legitimacy.
That’s the background for this week’s parsha.
Last week we heard that kings would come from Abraham and Sarah:
וְהִפְרֵתִי אֹתְךָ בִּמְאֹד מְאֹד וּנְתַתִּיךָ לְגוֹיִם וּמְלָכִים מִמְּךָ יֵצֵאוּ
“I will make you exceedingly fruitful, and I will make nations of you, and kings shall come from you.” (Genesis 17:6)
וּבֵרַכְתִּי אֹתָהּ וְגַם נָתַתִּי מִמֶּנָּה לְךָ בֵּן וּבֵרַכְתִּיהָ וְהָיְתָה לְגוֹיִם מַלְכֵי עַמִּים מִמֶּנָּה יִהְיוּ
“I will bless her, and she shall become nations; kings of peoples shall come from her.” (Genesis 17:16)
Abraham and Sarah are the father and mother of those future kings. But the story they’re living is the opposite of what the kings of Ur performed. Heaven and earth are not gods to be joined or embodied. They’re creations that exist only because God wills them to exist, and their only job is to do what He gave them to do.
Now Abraham is sending Eliezer to find a wife for Yitzchak, and the oath he makes him swear is this:
וְאַשְׁבִּיעֲךָ בַּיהֹוָה אֱלֹהֵי הַשָּׁמַיִם וֵאלֹהֵי הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר לֹא־תִקַּח אִשָּׁה לִבְנִי מִבְּנוֹת הַכְּנַעֲנִי אֲשֶׁר אָנֹכִי יוֹשֵׁב בְּקִרְבּוֹ
“And I will make you swear by the LORD, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites among whom I dwell.” (Genesis 24:3)
Not a goddess of heaven and a separate god of the earth. One God who is both. In the Guide for the Perplexed 2:30 the Rambam lists this very verse among the places the Torah speaks of God’s relation to the heavens, and he explains: “As for the expressions ‘the God of the heaven’ and also ‘God of the world,’ they are used with respect to His perfection, may He be exalted, and theirs. He is Elohim— that is, He who governs — and they are those governed by Him… He is God, not they.”
He then tells Eliezer that the God of heaven told him to go to his father’s house. Once it’s clear there’s only one God over everything, the mission is simply under that God.
It’s also striking how Abraham mirrors the way God runs the world. Heaven and earth are not gods; they’re servants created to carry out God’s will. Abraham does the same. Instead of reenacting the sacred-marriage poem the way the kings of Ur did — taking on the role of a god for a moment — he simply fulfills God’s will. He sends his servant Eliezer to find a wife for Yitzchak from his father’s house, exactly as God has directed. Heaven and earth serve God; Abraham serves God by having Eliezer carry out the command about where his son should marry.
Eliezer takes the wealth with him. When he tells the story to Rivkah’s family he says:
וַיהֹוָה בֵּרַךְ אֶת־אֲדֹנִי מְאֹד וַיִּגְדָּל וַיִּתֶּן־לוֹ צֹאן וּבָקָר וְכֶסֶף וְזָהָב וַעֲבָדִם וּשְׁפָחֹת וּגְמַלִּים וַחֲמֹרִים
“The LORD has greatly blessed my master, and he has become great. He has given him flocks and herds, silver and gold, male and female slaves, camels and donkeys.” (Genesis 24:35)
Sheep and cattle — the things that belonged to the shepherd-god in the old poems — are here just gifts from the one God. Abraham is a wealthy shepherd because God made him one, not because he embodied Dumuzi.
And then there’s Eliezer’s test. He sets a condition: if the girl does this, then I’ll know she’s the one. The Rambam in Hilchot Avodah Zarah 11:4 brings exactly that as the example of forbidden nichush:
וְכֵן הַמֵּשִׂים לְעַצְמוֹ סִימָנִים, אִם יֵאָרַע לִי כָּךְ וְכָךְ אֶעֱשֶׂה דָּבָר פְּלוֹנִי, וְאִם לֹא יֵאָרַע לֹא אֶעֱשֶׂה, כֶּאֱלִיעֶזֶר עֶבֶד אַבְרָהָם. וְכָל כַּיּוֹצֵא בַּדְּבָרִים הָאֵלּוּ, הַכֹּל אָסוּר; וְכָל הָעוֹשֶׂה מַעֲשֶׂה מִפְּנֵי דָּבָר מִדְּבָרִים אֵלּוּ, לוֹקֶה.
Likewise, one who sets signs for himself — “If such-and-such happens to me, I will do such-and-such, and if it does not happen, I will not do it” — as Eliezer the servant of Abraham did, and anything similar to these things: all of it is forbidden. And anyone who performs an action because of one of these things is liable for lashes.
In the poems, Inanna’s bathing and opening the door show that she has accepted Dumuzi. Eliezer is doing something the Torah world eventually rules out. The wife for Yitzchak is found under the oath of the single God of heaven and earth, not through a sign that treats heaven and earth as separate powers that need to be joined or tested.
Abraham is promised kings will come from him. The pagan kings of the city he came from tried to become gods by reenacting and imitating a story in which their gods of heaven and earth merged. We do the opposite. The story of Abraham, Eliezer, and the search for a wife for Yitzchak shows us what that looks like in practice: everything is done under the one God of heaven and earth, with a servant carrying out the will of his master who is himself carrying out the will of God. All of the Jewish people are a kingdom of priests that serve, precisely by imitating how we see God run creation — not by becoming gods ourselves, but by serving His will the way heaven and earth do. That is how we live as tzelem Elokim.